There’s no doubt that Catelynn Lowell and Tyler Baltierra are making their way through a marital rough patch. The couple, who have been together for more than a decade, have been trying to live separately for a while.

Twenty-six-year-old Baltierra presented the idea to his wife-of-three-years during a couple’s retreat in Sedona, Arizona. The star revealed that it was “hard” for him to tell Catelynn because he “knew it was going to be, like, the worst possible thing [she] could hear.”

As Celebuzz! has previously reported, during a sneak peek for the following episode of Teen Mom OG, fans watched as Baltierra told his therapist that he is “absolutely not” happy in his marriage to Catelynn, who is currently pregnant. The soon-to-be mother-of-three shared her own thoughts on her husband’s plans, saying, “I was devastated at first, but now that I started my own therapy, I’m more comfortable with the idea.”

“Am I jumping for joy for it?” she said. “No … you know … in that moment it did trigger me. It did bring up wounds. It was scary, it was sad, it was hurtful.”

“I think the goal is to just figure out who we are as individuals. I think me and Cate, like, just got together super young and we kind of, like, used each other for survival […] to kind of drive through this life or whatever,” the 26-year-old said. “And I feel like we just got so lost in everything. You just kind of lose who you are as individual.”

After sharing that he needed to “decompress” after singlehandedly holding their home down while Catelynn was away in rehab, Tyler questioned, “Who am if I’m not Catelynn’s husband?”